Some relationships have hit an impasse, a brick wall, a torrent of tension, that requires mediation rather than therapy.
What’s the difference?
Mediation is a single process that may last the whole day, or just a few hours, however long it takes to find an agreement.
It maybe that the agreement is to go forward and have psychotherapy to transform the relationship.
Or you might each decide to go your separate ways but rather than endlessly going round in circles, or tearing strips off each other, mediation is a safe neutral space to work out the best way forward for both of you, and your children, if you have any.
I recommend a pre-mediation telephone conversation with each of you separately first to assess whether this process might help each of you.
- Mediation helps you tap into the most positive aspects of any conflict:
- It helps to open up discussion of an issue
- Results in the problem being solved rather than it remaining a source of irritation
- Increases the level of individual involvement and interest in an issue
- Improves communication between people
- Releases emotions that have been stored up
- Helps people to develop their abilities.
- Ultimately results in families being closer, happier and more intimate emotionally.